Birth Doula Blog
How to Get Your Partner on Board With a Doula
Let's be real, it takes a village to raise a child AND to bring one into this world!
You've likely imagined your doula, partner, and birth team working in harmony as you labor but now you're faced with the possibility of it being a tension-riddled situation instead because your partner doesn't want a doula. But you've done your homework and you're convinced you must have one. So how do you fix this? Well, the majority of reluctant partners come from a place of love and concern. They want to protect you, keep the experience personal and sacred, and be the one you turn to for support. These are all excellent reasons to be there for you and convincing them to allow an extra person in this special moment is no small feat. Fortunately, with a little guidance, you can tip the odds in your favor.
Chances are, your partner isn't fully aware of a doula's role and is holding on to biased opinions. Doulas come in all kinds of packages from holistic, hippie, medicine-friendly, modern, and everything in between. A good doula will never take away your partner's role. She gives them space when needed and can actually help them become a more active participant during labor. A good doula understands how special this moment is and how you'll always remember it so she strives to create strong family dynamics by welcoming open dialogue and respecting you and your partner's wishes.