Birth Doula Blog
So, you've decided on getting a doula. Now what? To give yourself a few options, interview at least three candidates and choose based on the connection, not just on the fee, experience, or reputation. A pricey doula doesn't necessarily mean she's giving you quality support. An experienced doula doesn't always mean she's right for YOUR experience. And a popular one is simply one who's talked about, but there might be another one who could be a best-kept secret. Ask the following questions to get to know the person she is, her values, work ethic, and client-doula relationship. Make sure you and your partner both get the same positive vibe and that she meets your individual priorities.
Ask the questions that are important to you. Oftentimes, potential clients just go down a list of questions they found on Google and the meet-and-greet quickly becomes a high-pressure job interview. Maybe experience doesn't matter to you or maybe meeting often isn't a deal breaker for you, so skip those questions. Stick to the topics that are suited to your needs and goals.
P.S. If you decide to pass on her, be courteous and let her know. It's just the nice thing to do!
ALL The Doula Questions
•What doula education or training do you have?
•Do you carry liability insurance?
•What is your philosophy about birth?
•What level of advocacy are you comfortable with?
•How do you feel about my desired birth? What are your favorite and most challenging aspects of labor like mine?
•What sets you apart from other doulas?
•How soon do you reply to messages and emails?
•How many births do you attend a month?
•Do you have a backup and can I meet her?
•Do you have experience at the place I'm birthing and what do you think of it? *If a doula isn't quite comfortable at that place, ask why.
•What do your refund policies and contract entail?
•Do you have any beliefs that will prevent you from being 100% supportive of my labor and newborn wishes?
•How many times will we meet? What if I need more visits?
•What does labor support look like with you? Do you bring tools?
•When should I call you for labor support?
•Do you offer a postpartum session and what's included?
•What do you love the most about being a doula?
•What is the hardest part of your job and how do you handle that?
•Why did you become a doula? (My personal favorite to answer!)