So, you've decided on getting a doula. Now what? To give yourself a few options, interview at least three candidates and choose based on the connection, not just on the fee, experience, or reputation. A pricey doula doesn't necessarily mean she's giving you quality support. An experienced doula doesn't always mean she's right for YOUR experience. And a popular one is simply one who's talked about, but there might be another one who could be a best-kept secret. Ask the following questions to get to know the person she is, her values, work ethic, and client-doula relationship. Make sure you and your partner both get the same positive vibe and that she meets your individual priorities.

Ask the questions that are important to you. Oftentimes, potential clients just go down a list of questions they found on Google and the meet-and-greet quickly becomes a high-pressure job interview. Maybe experience doesn't matter to you or maybe meeting often isn't a deal breaker for you, so skip those questions. Stick to the topics that are suited to your needs and goals.

P.S. If you decide to pass on her, be courteous and let her know. It's just the nice thing to do!

I'm a straight shooter, so I'll start by saying that there is a time and place for an epidural. Personally, I believe it's overused, rarely necessary, and not fully understood by laboring people. If the immediate and future benefits and risks are truly considered then I see no problem with the use of an epidural. My biggest issue with it is that the promise of quick pain relief overshadows the uncomfortable prep work that is needed prior to administration, the potential risks during its use, and the effects after it's been removed. That being said, there are actual circumstances in which the benefits outweigh the risks.

So, maybe you are new to this doula thing or all of your friends have gotten one for their labors and swear they couldn't have done it without the help of a doula. Now you're wondering if you should get one too. I mean, all the cool kids are doing it, right?

Even though I'd love your business, I'm not going to lie to you. Doulas aren't the only ones who can improve your birth experience. I say it all the time, surround yourself with the RIGHT people! Studies have shown that having doula support during pregnancy and labor can decrease your chances of a C-section, need for pain medication, and assisted delivery. We can also increase your overall satisfaction with your birth experience and improve breastfeeding and bonding outcomes. But how does a doula have that effect and can anyone else give you those amazing outcomes?