Birth Doula Blog
The Longest Wait for the Sweetest Reward
Waiting is hard. You probably never expected to still be pregnant or maybe you aren't surprised to be here today, but you weren't prepared to feel the way you do. The weeks can feel like years.
Maybe you've made great physical sacrifices and being pregnant hurts. But you swore you'd choose discomfort over induction.
You might even be feeling a bit embarrassed because you told your family and friends that baby would be here by a certain date and that date has passed. A great approach when well-meaning people ask when it's finally going to happen say, "Baby gets to pick the day, not me or the provider". Sometimes, it's ok to make your inner circle smaller and be very honest about how those questions make you feel. The people who truly care for you will understand.
You might be feeling pressured to have this baby by a certain day and you probably have an induction scheduled. However, if you feel like you're hoping to miss that induction and aren't looking forward to it, then the truth is, you're not truly comfortable with it and a deeper conversation is needed. Do you want to completely decline it and have you gone over your options, risks, and benefits? Or is there something about the induction that you're worried about? I encourage you to speak to someone you trust and explore ways to get over that hesitation. The point is, no matter your decision, you should feel confident and safe!
Babies are intuitive beings and know when the time is right. They will tell you when they're ready and they hope you can listen. To be able to listen, you need to quiet the voices that are making you feel pressured, embarrassed, or doubtful. Just like you wouldn't pick the unripe fruit on a tree, you shouldn't rush baby's perfect timeline. Some babies just require more time, and that's ok.
At this point, you've probably tried many things to encourage baby to come naturally and maybe you're wondering if you've missed anything. I'll tell you that there's probably one thing you haven't tried: Nothing. Yes, do nothing and just let go. There's beauty in letting go. Somehow, things fall into place. True release consists of being present, letting go of expectations of outcomes and timelines, surrendering to the unknown, and understanding what your responsibilities to this baby truly are.
Have you tried listening to your baby? How do you think she feels right now? If she could talk, what would she tell you?
In the meantime, I encourage you to enjoy your life as it is right now because soon enough it will change. Spend time with your partner or children. Find ways to treat yourself and nourish your body and mind. You can also put your energy to better use by planning for the postpartum period and checking things off your list.
Here are a few good reads:
10 Tips from a Mum Who Went Overdue
Hope for the Miserably Pregnant Mom (faith-based)
Loving Overdue Babies
You've got this, mama! ❤️